It's been a few months since my ex dumped me and about 2 months since we last talked in person, and during those 2 months we went no contact. About 2 weeks ago I contacted her to tell her it's time for her to pick up her stuff that she left at my house. I gave her a 2.5 week window for her to pick a day she wanted to come exchange our belongings (I gave 2.5 weeks because of the holiday weekend in case either of us went away). She picked last Tuesday and said she would come between 7-7:30 pm after her woman's golf league. At 6:15 pm, she texts me and cancels, says her league is taking longer because of back ups on the course, and asked if she could come the next night instead. I said no and that I had plans the next night, which I changed to accommodate her coming on Tuesday. When she asked why I changed my plans and that she could have came a different night, I told her I did it because this had gone on long enough, it wasn't helping either of us to prolong this, and that I just wanted to get it done. She mentioned she could come the following week, I said fine. She never took responsibility for canceling, only blaming it on her league. My question is why would she pick a night that she already had something going on? Anyone who plays golf knows there will be delays. Why didn't she just pick Wednesday from the start if she knew she was free that night? Do you think she planned to cancel and the league was just a convenient excuse? If so, why put on the charade? She told me she wanted her stuff back the multiple times I asked. She has had months to come get it but never reached out. When I asked why, she said she was giving me time/space to heal, then later said she forgot I had her stuff (one of these is a lie). She dumped me, it will obviously be awkward, but I've always been nice and wouldn't do anything mean. Why is she avoiding this? If she has moved on, why should she care if it's awkward for a few minutes? Why hasn't she scheduled a new day?
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She is holding on to you still. It gives her some sort of reason to contact you and you also have visual reminders of her about the place. As already posted, she regrets dumping you and is not sure how to approach this.
With regards to picking the Tuesday, it could be either that she was just thinking, I will show him that I have a busy life so I will have to come after I've played sport. She let herself down when she said that she could come on the Wednesday. Or he is hassling me so I will just pick a day early in the week.
The letting you heal part is rubbish - she regrets it and wanted to leave her stuff at your house in case you made steps to get her back, etc. She's playing games a little bit.0