My ex-husband (together for 4 years married for 2 years) and I divorced a year and a half ago. For the past 8 months he's been living with someone else.
After we divorced (I don't feel like getting into the deets - too complicated), he tried to get back to together but I was so angry I couldn't think straight and really needed my space from him. I met someone else and kind of dove into that relationship, but I realized eventually that it was just a rebound and got out of it. When my ex found out I was with someone else he seemed to move on real quick with someone else. We have a lot of mutual friends and I hear he was also devastated after our divorce and he still talks about me.
I'm not sure what to do now. He's moved on with someone else. I'm not sure what I want but I kind of wanted to speak to him now that it's been a while and I've calmed down. But I realize it's a bad idea.
Will his new relationship stick through? Any chance he might still miss me?
I was thinking to just wait it out and see if his rebound ends soon too.. and I just want him to get his own place so we can talk.. I don't know if I want to get back together. All I know is I just want to talk to him. But if he's truly moved on with this girl I don't want to interfere. Should I just wait it out? Could he really be over me if he's still hurt?
Most Helpful Guy
I'm not sure I believe you when you say that you're not sure you want to get back together with him. To me, it sounds like you are hopeful and possibly desiring a re-connection with your ex, otherwise, you wouldn't be posting about this. But to answer your question, you said that you ended the relationship because you were unhappy. Whatever those reasons were, do you think that will change if/when you ever get back together with him again? If he's still that same person, is that enough for you to spend the rest of your life with him? If your answer is no, then save yourself the time and trouble and just move on.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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... For the past 8 months he has been living with someone else...
You both got a Divorce for a reason and now that it looks likes there was No Kissing and making up when 'He tried,' he moved on to another girl who he felt he had chemistry with And... So far so good so it seems.
Although you are not under the same roof and can't know for sure, with Her and him being these birds of a feather who so far have stuck together, I am not saying there won't come a time down the love line that this relationship goes sour and Goes... South.
However, even if he would leave her tomorrow, would you want him back to Continue the same stuff he may have pulled on you to Continue and probably will Pull on her in time?
Even though there may be some characteristics of her that are different from you, she may hold Other things that he sees in her that you don't possess.
Don't wait, move on. When you both were in this marriage, you couldn't make it work, you both had your chance for romance but never got it together and this is why you are no longer Together.
He may really care about her and with '8 months' and still counting, only God and Mother nature know for sure where it will go with the flow.
Good luck. xx1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE