We were in an exclusive relationship, we are in our 40's. He seemed like a great man, did everything he could for me, had my back in all situations, seemed like he could be the one. There were absolutely no signs anything was wrong or he couldn't be trusted. Then out of the blue on a Wed. night I get a FB PM from his ex with screen shots of text messages they had been having for several weeks. They ranged from Miss you, to quite graphic sexts. No pictures, just words. I promptly broke up with him because #1 I do not trust him at all now and #2 I am not 100% sure if he physically cheated or it was just texts. He swears it was just texts and he says he has no clue why he did it, says he is not in love with her and has tried every since the break up to get me back, even showing texts between those two where she is obviously the one who is chasing him and wanting to get back together. She admitted she did it because she was jealous and wants him back. He said if he wanted her, he would be with her and not fighting to get me back so hard. I am confused. I truly liked him, was falling in love with him, yet I cannot get the texts out of my head. If he cared for me so much--WHY did he text her at all let alone sext her? What do you all think? Can you forgive and forget or just move on? Right now I am in no contact and told him I am done, but my heart is saying otherwise.
Most Helpful Guy
Unfortionately, I am am one of these people who believe in the phrase once a cheat always a cheat. I don't think from what you've shared with us, he truly knows what he wants. I would suggest leaving him be. As it seems he wanted the best of both worlds I'm afraid. Am sorry for you. I hope my take helps :)1
Most Helpful Girl
Sorry this happened to u, its easy for an outsider to tell u to end it. It seems u still care for him and want to stick around
If u do wish to continue ur relationship with this man at least dont fall right back into his arms
Ignore him for a while tell him ur thinking about it and that u need time. So he learns his lesson and won't fuck around next time
All the best dear1