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Same hobbies. My ex and I have been playing an online game together for few weeks now, and it's going great. He dumped me 4 months ago because he lost interest (we were together for 3 years and I won't deny that romance kind of died and I became needy), and after 3 months of barely any contact now it seems like it's all coming back. He was the one to initiate the game, and now we even see each other, call each other cute names and tease each other. No kissing or sex yet, but I'm not in the rush. Since the day we broke up I haven't initiated anything. Even when we would talk I wouldn't talk about us or our relationship or the breakup, I acted all cool like I nothing happened. I figured that an extra pressure won't do anything good. So I just went with the flow. I started going to the gym (got my ass all worked up), and had sessions with myself, deeply trying to solve the issue of my neediness and to figure out what happened to us. I realized I just need to relax more and care less. So I started being as happy as I could be, started doing new projects on job, and overall was just more independable and more happy. I guess he noticed it too and that's what attracted him to me again, like the first time we met. I never initiated anything after the breakup, it was all him, I was just being happy, nice and polite to him every time. But all of that wasn't any mind game or an act to get him back; when we broke up I was sure that was it. I accepted it. So now all of this is kind of surprise to me and I don't mind. I still love him and I would love to marry him. But if not, I'm also fine with that. I fixed my insecurity issues, the rest is on him to fix if he wants. If we do get back together I know I'll be much stronger person then I was past couple of months of our relationship. But I'm not gonna move a finger in getting him back, it's all on him. If he wants me he needs to man up and do it. It's not like I'm waiting either, if a good opportunity comes up I'm gonna go for a new guy. Neither of us was with anyone after the breakup though. I guess it all depends why you broke up and how long were you together. And how you broke up. Nothing is certain in life and you shouldn't be TRYING to make him do something, it's not gonna work. It's gonna be truly and from the heart if it does happen WITHOUT you doing anything with it. It's his life after all. All you can do is just be yourself, be happy, and hopefully he will notice and get turned on again.