I was in a relationship for nearly 2 years. I loved this man ! thought he loved me to. We had a massive bust up I know it's bad be he has a girlfriend but he still ran after me , I'm very insecure and the attention he gave me made me feel like I was so special. Everything was going fine until I noticed a women had texted him. He told me it was something to do with his brother and there trying to catch her out etc... I didn't believe him I was so upset ! He then said why have you been snooping through my phone? I hadn't but he thinks I had , he said he wouldn't go near that women she's disgusting and for my to do a lie detector on him :/ . i said " yeah I've caught you ! Just in time " as I think he would've gone with her. I lost my temper and told his girlfriend about us ! He went mental ! And yesterday I rang him at work and told him to ring me or I will ring his girlfriend ! He rang me from work and he was shouting in a rage ! I couldn't understand what he was saying he was going mental ! I hung up then he rang again and we talked , he said I was insecure / trust issues etc I was crying down the phone I told him I was sorry , then he said I have lost my kid now because of you !!! I told him
he was the one cheating so his own doing ! He then said he swears on his life and his kid life he has never been near any women but me , he said don't try to get me back it's over it's done ! Then he. said you haven't lost anything ! I said I have... You. He went quiet then said he had to go back to work and we said bye. I'm hurt he's hurt everyone's hurt ! I love this man , he blocked me on whatsapp but he still got my message and phone call. I sent a message saying I'm sorry and I will always love him , I never got a reply back. Do you think he will hate me for ever? He was such a good man to me before this happened , he was a good friend I loved him. Do I just leave him alone and maybe he will come back? What do you think
Most Helpful Guy
I think you should give up polyamorous relationships. At the very least, stop emotionally investing yourself in them.
I say this because you are with him (or in a relationship with someone) for 2 years while he has a girlfriend. Even if he ran to you to meet some short-term emotional/physical need, you would still need to make him choose. Its just not going to work with another woman in the relationship.1
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Just because two people Breakup doesn't mean they don't and can't Makeup and that it is Goodbye, my lover forever. And with a fresh Split when you think "This is It," with your 'Relationship for nearly 2 years' and perhaps Still Counting, @Bondegreeneyes, it doesn't Mean That... He won't be back. You share history and with This, are Feelings that are Felt and of course, the Missing the Kissing will soon follow. But Not... The Constant 'Insecure/trust issues etc.'
He is angry now, feels hurt and upset that you think he cannot be trusted. And with his 'Rang me' in this 'Rage,' things just got worse and Now... War of the Roses.
There may or may not have been more than meets eye besides the Other past mishaps besides this Mystery woman in Question. You didn't stress. And if you Saw what you Think was him putting his hand in the cookie jar behind your back, then there may have been More in Store... Which means he looked but so far didn't touch.
You both are in this lock horn and scorn situation where time and space and even a Break is needed, which has lead to the Breakup now.
Do some soul searching and let things go for awhile. He needs time to get his head on and you need to do some soul searching in your own heart and head.
I can tell you one thing, from my own Past experience, that even if he would give you a thousand and one chances, it will Always come Full circle back.. To the past and the present and This will never constitute a healthy relationship and in the end, may only leave you both With... Friends till the end Instead, maybe Not.
However, if he comes a calling, with you still bawling, Try... No brawling, it will never be Happy harmony, especially because there are serious issues that desperately need to be addressed here, dear.
Good luck. xx0