- I am/was the Cheater in the relationship.
- I am/was Cheated on in the relationship.
- I am/was the Cheatee (other man/woman) in the relationship.
- I've been both the cheater/cheatee.
- I've been both the cheater/cheated on.
- I've been both the cheatee/cheated on.
- I've been all three.
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... Brain too tired to make sense of your options so here's the answer in sentences:
I sort of cheated on one girlfriend. She started college in a univeristy the far end of the country the year before (it had been a long distence relationship from the start) and I had been a bit jellous of her new friends (most of which where lads, who she was spending a whole hell of a lot of time with). Then I finished college and went on to university, even further away. And she suddenly got a bit erratic, sometimes really clingly and paranoid, sometimes hard to get hold of and dismissive. I found out later that she was convinced I was cheating... in the end I got fed up tried to end it, couldnt, gave in and let a lass who was mercilessly trying to seduce me have her way. The relationship was essentially already dead, but I still felt guilty for years. Still do.
Then at the end of another relationship she dumped me, after getting distant for a while, and I found out that she had been sharing some pretty intimate stuff with another guy for a very long time, and I am pretty sure she was cheating for a while.
And I once made out with a girl, after crushing on her for a while only to find out she was in a relationship and she had recently convinced twisted his arm into asking her to get married... so I stepped out of that sharpish because I refused to be a third party... actually that's happened a couple of times.
So two of three and a couple of close shaves. Do I get a very sad prize?2