In particular, whether if you're seeing someone new.
- Out of curiosity or boredomVote A
- Out of emotional attachmentVote B
- Out of guiltVote C
- Other answers/commentsVote D
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Males have a fundamental instinct. Once we stop being little boys and start getting into relationships with females, we start developing an instinct for, hmmm, for lack of a better word, protection. We a female is in our care, we change. We want to know how she is and if there are any threats to her or the relationship.
The thing is that, even once our relationship with a woman may end, that instinct applied to her does not immediately end. It's not like a light switch. Even if he dumped the woman, he, deep down inside, considers her part of his stable of women that he had relationships with and, because of that, he will always have some positive feelings and be inquisitive. If he is the one who got dumped, then no way that instinct gets turned off. In fact, it's why heartbreak is so tough on guys; with no relationship, she-who-dumped-him would prefer he turn off the instinct, but he can't just do it like that. So, he eats himself alive with heartache trying to find the self-discipline to suppress the instinct. If he can't, he might become a stalker for awhile at least. Only time can fix this. Think of the ex as still checking up on you as a form of masturbation. He can't have you, but he still needs to execute his protective instinctive behavior and checking up on you enables him to do that.0