We work together and we saw each other almost everyday. He is friendly and try to talk to me if we got chance but when I message him he always felt distant. We talked a lot on message yesterday and i realized that he don't like talking about private life. So I want to give up on him but I will see him everyday. I tried to distance myself last time but failed miserably coz he approached me again and I like him so I'm very happy.
Can I just ignore him then? I want to forget him asap and his cold and hot behaviour make me fed up.
Most Helpful Guy
Be realistic. He's not interested. Find someone else better who will treat you like a queen.
Most Helpful Girl
Aw, this happened to me too, and it really sucks. And to be totally honest, I didn't handle it well when I was going through it: I already knew he wasn't romantically interested in me, but I continued to act sulky whenever he wouldn't talk to me or talked to other girls, and then I would passive-aggressively confront him whenever he did talk to me. Not pretty, not cool, and I'm actually still kinda embarrassed about it. So, don't do what I did ;-)
Looking back, I think the best thing I could've done was fully accept the fact that he's NOT interested. Your guy might be completely nice and friendly and talkative, but it's clear that he's not flirting or looking for more, right? So, you have to stop seeing his conversations as potential for "more." They are JUST conversations, and if he's a friendly dude, he's having them with many other people per day. It's just how he is, and there's nothing wrong with that. On the other hand, he is JUST one guy on the planet, and he's just a blip on your radar during this time in your life. Concentrating on your work, meeting other people, and being mostly concerned with yourself are the best ways to distract yourself from him in the short term. It may seem hurtful at times, but I promise that if you try to distract yourself, you will get over it sooner than you think.