My ex that I dated for 7 months broke up with me about 2 months ago and it wasn't pretty. We live in the same town, but I was away at school so at the time it was long distance. He broke up with me via text messaging telling me he was moving in a month and couldn't do the relationship with that much distance. He never moved. We also work at the same place when I'm back from school. He was supposed to leave to visit a relative during almost the entire time I was home. Now he's staying home. There was a work Xmas party this past weekend and yeah, we were both there. I avoided all contact with him and just had fun with my friends the entire time and ignored him. There was at one point where we all had to sign a card and he walked over, said "Here you go, ___" quietly and handed me the card. I just took the card and didn't say anything. Later that night, I was hanging out with my friends after the party. He texted one of our mutual friends he knew I was with asking him to do him a favor and apologize to me for a situation I got caught up in the day before (Not the exact text at all, but it's a giant side story I won't get into). He had nothing to do with what happened, but found out about it through someone else (another mutual friend) and apologized for it. I was confused, why does he care when he had nothing to do with it at all and why is he playing telephone through our friend? I ended up texting him because I wasn't putting my friend in the middle of it, saying the situation the day before was nothing and it didn't matter and nothing happened. He texted back saying how he knew what happened but he knew I was there and he felt bad. Any ideas as to why he is doing this? My life is none of his business anymore, why is he apologizing for an incident that had nothing to do with him at all? it looks like it is a lame excuse to try and talk to me, but I have no idea. This is all a very condensed version of what's happened, but I don't want to write a book on here. I'm just looking to see if anyone else sees anything in him contacting me through a friend and apologizing for something he had nothing to do with. I just don't understand it at all. Any input would be greatly appreciated, thank you!
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He's probably had a few regrets finishing the relationship now he's seeing you occasionally. It is his way of trying to get back into your life again by the sounds of it. He's thinking that you will talk to him about whatever happened to try and get close to you again. It's sometimes easier for people to communicate via messages and friends so he can get a feeler for the situation. He obviously brought the card over to you to generate a conversation. The ball is in your court, if you have moved on and not interested politely tell him you would rather have distance or if you want something again with him let a new relationship develope. He could also just want to be friends so don't rush into anything, sometimes people work better as friends but I couldn't tell you if this was the case as I don't know the two of you well enough. I hope this gives a little light to the situation