Most Helpful Guy
You need to talk to him first. Here's a link to a Take that's sort of on point. It talks about talking about emotional topics with less emotion.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10152-how-to-talk-to-your-so-about-sex0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
It's "Friends with benefits" Factor which means he wants No strings attached, just to cuddle and huddle because you are the Only One right now, with history you both have shared, that he feels comfy with. He is Missing the Kissing.
If you Begin this Beguine of Giving in to his whimsy, it will never get you anywhere. You would then become his "EX" who is this Enabler to keep just the fires burning, putting any chance for romance again on A... Back burner.
Good luck. xx0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE