Like my friends hate these girls and so they called me up and was like cuss them out for me and call them sluts and all that stuff. So I did, but I didn't even know them, I didn't know what their situation was, I felt bad because I had to say those things and it didn't feel okay or right. Does that make me a bad person. Like I want to apologize but I can't. What should I do?
Most Helpful Guy
You aren't a bad person! You just need to learn to correct future situations from your mistakes.
First off, you just gave in to peer pressure. This is bad-- it's basically your friends telling you should do something and you doing it because you don't want to let them down. If this is a common thing that your friends do to you, I'd think how friendly they really are.
Secondly, it is not right to call someone a slut and cuss them out. It probably wouldn't make you feel too great if some person called you up and cursed you out and called you names. Names like that destroy people's self esteem and creates insecurities within people. Insecurities take awhile to go away. There is no reason to spread the hate.
Thirdly, if you physically can apologize at all, do it. Even if there are worries about how your "friends" may think of you, or how embarrassing it would be, do it anyway. Fact of the matter is that you wronged them first, so it is best to fix that wrong while you can. Even if it is a simple "I'm sorry for the other day" it will work. If your friends get mad at you for it, they are being jerks. Like total jerks. And that is no friend at all.
Don't let your friends control who you are and what you do. You aren't a bad person for making a mistake in life -- we all do, but just try your best to not make it again. Your peeps made you pick their fight for them and shame someone else. Try not to do that, as it may well have bigger consequences than you think. Apologize if you can.1
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Most Helpful Girl
Yeah, it does make you a bad person. Take this as a lesson in how your words and inaction hurts others. Don't ever do it again and don't stand by while others do it.1