Girls I need some sort of advice, I've posted on here before about how my ex girlfriend dumped me by our 1 year because I was insecure, jealous, and angry... yeah I fucked up. We both work together, we met at work and fell for eachother and dated and we're in love... until my insecurities got into the way through the end of the relationship. The breakup was bad for me and I begged foe the beginning weeks until I gave up and wanted to fix myself... went NC to get control, got better unlike her who hated who makes things awkward and bitter and started blocking me from facebook and instagram. I then posted a lot of questions on her, and started slowliy trying to fix the relationship between us because I still love my ex and want her in a new relationship. I started trying to text her here and there (almost 2 months after the breakup) to lighten the mood and would get neutral responses but she did unblock me during that time which I didn't mention at all.
Two weeks later after that on Monday I invited her to get coffee and catch up and she gave me a neutral I don't know and i might be busy response to me, I later on texted her saying that I understood being hesitant but I just wanted a good time between us and if she needed to get stuff on the table then its all up to her, and I would text her on Wednesday to see if she waneed to or not. Wednesday comes and I'm about to text her when one of our mutual friends posts pictures of her and a couple of male work buddies on a speed boat (with her in a bikini)... she isn't the type of girl to do that but it ripped me up to shreds and I went back to square one of the recovery process, but I stood my ground to not show it hurt me and asked her about the pictures and still asked her hours later after the post... after hours of no responses I told her that I'd text her in the morning if she was busy at the moment.
Can any of you girls help me?
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I think she might be trying to tell you she's not interested (not in so many words). I semi-broke up (I say "semi" because we'd never got past the stage of "sort of seeing each other") with someone for similar reasons, and when I said I didn't want to hear from them again, I meant it. They bombarded me with messages on every available avenue for at least 2 months after it. When I blocked him, I meant it too. Recently he found my profile on a dating site and started messaging me there, asking if we could salvage some sort of relationship.
Please don't be one of these hangers-on. It's awkward and embarrassing for both parties. There will be other girls who will want you in their lives. This one seems like she doesn't. You're missing out.
You have to understand that it wasn't the insecurity etc that really got to me. It was the persistent hounding after the breakup. It felt like a blatant disrespect of my wishes and invasion of my space. Nobody is obliged to interact with anyone else. I felt like I could not be with someone who wouldn't take no for an answer.
I know from this that he's not someone whose presence would make a positive impact on my life. And I don't know whether this girl thinks the same way - but when I discover that about people, I walk away. Life's too short to waste time on people who are less than good for you.1