Last night I went to a party that my ex and his wife attended. They got married 3months ago. I dated him for almost 4 years and I ended up breaking up with him. I had found he was cheating on me the whole time and when people wanted to know why that's what I said. It eventually got to his new girlfriend. He denied everything and people were choosing sides on who theybelieved. Anyways turns out a couple of friends did choose his side but now they aren't fond of the girlfriend. I only met her once so she hasn;t ever done anything to me. Well during this past year God has been tucking at my heart to forgive what other people have done to me. Which I hae now learned and at first it was the hardest but now I could tell I feel different around them. I feel much more comfortable around them and don't that anger I had towards him. I have forgiven him because I remember all the things we talked about. He had his own problems and has had people treat him in such ways too. So I truly have forgiven him. I tried to talk to him last night to let him know that I have forgiven him for everything. I was drinking some wine and I ended up chatting with my sister who I haven't seen for one year. My sister said how I was holding up and I told her that I hae forgiven him and really just want to become friends with him again. I was wanting to tell him last night but I didn;t get the chance. Now I regret not telling him anything but now I'm thinking maybe it was for the better. He is a liar and has most likely lied to her about me. If I would'e talked to him and she would've seen us he would've thrown me under the bus. So now I kind of am glad I didn't tell him anything because he's even told her I've called him when I never called him during that time they've been together. I have noticed he's a narcissist and was hoping he would see that just how I have forgiven him he can let go of his hurts as well. So should I have told him I've forgiven him or is it good that it was left that way?
Most Helpful Guy
"Last night I went to a party that my ex and his wife attended. "
^so i guess it was him who invited u?
"Now I regret not telling him anything but now I'm thinking maybe it was for the better"
" If I would've talked to him and she would've seen us he would've thrown me under the bus. "
^u can do it via text i guess, can't u? i believe it'd be better to tell him... also y do u believe he'll do this anyway?
it's be better to give it a chance (if u still can) and forgive him... and if he reacts as u assume... just don't talk to him again ;)0
Most Helpful Girl
I think it's fjne to leave it like that.0