We dated for 4 months. Everything was perfect. It all came naturally, nothing was forced. Not one moment of doubt, and even if there was it felt so wrong to even think so. We went on separate summer vacations, out of nowhere, complete surprise, she breaks up with me. Claiming several things; she's too much, I don't know who she really is, she's "not that girl for me". I asked if she cheated, she said no. I believe her. After we talked for a few hours, I let her go, reached out a couple times the following week, asked to talk again, she never did. Waited another couple weeks, reached out to her cordially. And one last time last week. We may see each other here in a week. But, I'm worried, should I have fought harder for her? I loved this girl. She made My life so happy.
Most Helpful Girl
No idea what went trough her head o_o
Maybe she meet someone ''better'' on her vacations?1
Most Helpful Guy
People break up or leave relationships for many many reason that may even elude themselves.
I wouldn't spend too much time trying to sort that stuff out because you're emotional and it's too soon to look at things objectively.
Rather just take it at face value, she could have lead you on or continue a loveless relationship which isn't fair to anyone. I know you feel down and rejected and it hurts but! let me tell you a story:
- A women in her early 30's just recently got divorced and had been single for 2 years. She hasn't dated much but eventually went on a date with this really great guy... they went on 4-5 dates and things were going perfectly however... she decided to end things. why?
She realized that while there was potential with this guy, she just wasn't ready for a relationship and all of the emotions/time/effort etc... that comes with it. So she spared him his time.
- The guy in this situation probably may find himself as dumb-founded as you feel but just know sometimes timing isn't right for whatever reason it there maybe nothing wrong you you at all that turned her away. A lot of times when people don't "feel" things are right, they make up stuff to explain their actions to help themselves cope.0