So I just broke it off with my girlfriend jenny of 3 years. She was being disloyal I think. I told her about not getting the job I recently went on an interview and she painted future situations where kids we don't even have blame me for not having stuff and shit. She's like are you going to go back to school or get a job. No I thought I would just not work babe... wtf she expects me to be like the top bacon earner or some shit and hinted at leaving me if I don't provide a super life. She expects a "good neighborhood like park ridge where she lives. Only townhomes starting in the low 400's and taxes of 10,000 plus a year if you buy any house. I'm like yeah thats unrealistic and I'm not going to work my ass off for you and our future kids for you to leave me when I can't provide the standard of living Only 1% of America can afford. She always complains when I ask her to pay for dates. I'm not a Bank account. I've lost count of how many times I've paid. She bought like 3 times. It's not that she uses me for money. She doesn't. It's that she expects to be taken care of and I said I want a partner. Men provide we do it even when we don't want to. Instead of comforting me and being loyal she goes for my balls and makes it all about me me me. I love her and would marry her but she's keeping a running bank balence of her dream future. Is that totally fucked or no? Maybe women rightly expect to be taken care of and I'm just a baby.
Most Helpful Girl
It's fine to want a luxurious lifestyle but what does she contribute? Does she work? Does she save? Or does she expect you to make that luxurious lifestyle happen while she just waits.
There are women who expect to be taken care of (financially), and there are men who want to do just that. There is nothing wrong with that as long as both people in a relationship agree. I, for one, would not want or expect my partner to work his ass off, and I would especially not whine that he should make a bigger effort so I can have a better life. So I guess you two are simply incompatible in this one aspect, and it's a pretty big aspect.
Regardless of all that though and what she expects, I find it pretty out of order to freak out at you for not getting a job. I agree she should be supportive as it's hard enough to find a new/good job and nobody needs their partner to harass them about it and make them feel worse.3
Most Helpful Guy
Yeah its a good thing you left her. Honestly, im a guy who beleives marriage is a partnership and not a dependense type of thing. Let her work for herself. Good jib man, youve made the right decision.2