So recently my ex husband and I met up to fill out more paperwork for the divorce after the court hearing. While we were at the notary he literally just breaks down. I tried to comfort him as best I could but he has abused me and I get nervous when we are too close together. I have been doing no contact for three months until we went to our hearing. He says he wants to be friends. He says that he wants to be friends to prove to me that he has changed. I tried telling him all the reasons why we divorced in the first place and he just doesn't care. So whenever we talk about the documents and the hearings he is using that time to talk about the relationship instead of the actual business and I have to keep reminding him why we were there. I don't know what to do. He is in bad shape and I just want him to be happy but not if that means I have to sacrifice my life again. I'm feeling very confused. I don't know how to just be friends. But I don't want to hurt him even though he has hurt me.
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You're not responsible for his happiness. He probably does have regrets now because the way he treated you led to the divorce, but it's too late. This ship has sailed. I understand you don't want him to be unhappy, but when he abused you, he didn't care about your happiness. You rightly say that you don't want to sacrifice your life again, so make sure he doesn't suck you back in. Try to remain as formal as polite as possible during these meetings you have to have with him, but keep the distance.2