Every weekend, I cooked for him. He said that no other woman has done that for him. I like to give massages, which he enjoyed as well. I did it when he was sore. He didn't have to ask, I just did it when I noticed he was tense. I'd get oil, sit on his back, and massage his back to relieve some stress. Oday when he came home, his feet were sore from standing up all day. I took his shoe off, rubbed his feet and told him "Why don't you relax the rest of the day, if you need anything I'll get it for you". For his birthday, I bought him a cake and we played this game where we would put country names in a hat and what ever country he picked I would make a dish from that country. so for his birthday we had a foriegn dinner and I sung happy birthday to him. He said that he hadn't had his birthday celebrated in years and it had just become another day to him. So I treated him well, but he had temper problems and was emotionally abusive, and also didn't show much affection towards me which made me feel bad. He would go into random emotional fits, and insult me. He would also talk sexually online with girls from pornsites. So when I got upset, he tried to defend it and get angry at me for being upset about what he did. If we argued, the argument was alwasy either over a woman, or me bringing up that it hurt me that he didn't display much affection, and was said hurtful things to me. When he moved to another state, two days into our long distance relationship, he started crushing on another woman and wanted to be with her, he knew nothing about her except that she was pretty. I was prepared to stay loyal to him until he came back, I even lost a lot of guy friends and only hung out with girls. I was heart broken and we got into a nasty fight on facebook over this. I told him I hated him, and I really don't.
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Wow you are really similar to the ex girlfriend I mentioned on your other question! So my relationship was quite similar to yours except there was less drama and I wasn't a jerk to her. I'll be bluntly honest here. You're being a doormat. There is a fine line between being incredibly nice, and letting someone step all over you. Many nice people fall in this trap. This doesn't mean that you should stop being nice (a lot of guys would kill for a girl like you), but you need to draw the line somewhere. You've been so nice to him that he takes you for granted and doesn't respect you. If you're a very kindhearted person you need to also have a tough side so people don't take you for granted and walk all over you. You can be kind and everything, but when he does something out of line, you sure as hell let him know. When you let him know you have to drive the point across. Don't just mention it, but make sure he heard you loud and clear and that he knows to not dare to do it again. Honestly I think you should break up with him. He's crossed too many lines and he doesn't deserve you. He's not the only guy you will ever meet and it's not the end of the world if you break up. You obviously aren't his type, and he isn't yours. My ex and I had the same problem. I'm a clean guy (no drugs or anything) and I am very driven in my career path. But my ex is similar to you and thats not my type. Trust me, plenty of guys would date you, but to some like me and your boyfriend, we have different preferences. Luckily I wasn't a jerk about it and cleanly cut our relationship before things got bad. So decide if you are willing to have him drag you along, or pick yourself up and tell him that he has crossed the line too many times and that you are done with his crap.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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Don't caste your pearls to swine.
If you toss a beautiful expensive diamond ring on a pig farm, do you think the pigs are gonna treat the ring with the respect it truly deserves? No because they are pigs and they don't know better.
Your last guy was a pig like that too. You will find the right guy for you.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE