So, I dated my highschool sweetheart for nearly 5 years and we even went on to get engaged. Long story short, I broke it off because I was scared. I wasn't sure if that's what I wanted or not because he was the only thing I'd ever known. So fast forward three years, I have a boyfriend now and we are pretty serious. We've been living together for a while now. He also has a girlfriend. I can tell that I'm not anywhere near over him and it's been years now. I have dreams (or nightmares) about him so bad that I'll wake up crying. I feel like it's because I've gotten really good at not thinking about it and pushing it into the back of my mind, so now it's coming out in my subconscious. I know that he has moved on and on the outside, it appears that I have too. I love my current boyfriend but it's nowhere near the caliber that I loved my ex at. My question is, should I let him know how I feel or do I just let him go on with his life because I'm the one who did this to myself?
- Let him go orVote A
- Tell him how I feelVote B
Most Helpful Guy
You hurt him he will not hesitate to hurt you. Did you tell him you were scared because in my opinion that's pathetic. Everything valuable in life that you want to get makes you scared in the process does that make you walk away. Before you get a job the interview makes you scared before you find the one rejection makes you scared. He will demand answers if you do tell him and most likely you blew your chance. Dont you think he loved you like crazy? He definitely did if it's 5 years yet you did not hesitate to destroy him because you were scared. Id be very disappointed in my ex for a rubbish excuse and tell her she knows where the door is.0
Most Helpful Girl
Tell him how you feel but don't Expect anything to come of it. You'll never get over your feelings if you don't express them. And if you let it go and push it back again you'll always wonder. It isn't likely you'll get back together, but at least you'll have closure. Maybe you haven't been able to love your current boyfriend to the same caliber because of these unclosed feelings.
All loves are different and none will ever be like your first, but it doesn't mean it was the right one for you. You broke it off once, probably destroyed this guy and now that he's finally moved on he may not be so keen on you coming back out of the blue. You have to accept that.
Or who knows, maybe now that you both had time to figure things out it will work. But you won't know if you don't try.0