Please help me!
I know that I am in the wrong here.
I think I'm jealous of my boyfriend.
We've been together for over a year, but recently he's become more likable than me, is less shy, has more friends, and is invited out to parties (where I'm not invited)
I think everyone in our school hates me.. I'm in my final year, and so everyone is close to everyone else, but I just feel left out.
Its like he's the popular socialite and I'm the weird girl.
An odd coupling, do you not think?
We keep having arguments because he always goes out with his friends, and never seems to have time for me. He says things like "Well, I just don't like wasting a day, so organise things to do in between times."
But I feel so obsessive over it, just because I only go out with friends occasionally, and he goes out all the time!
To be fair, I live in the countryside and he lives in the city, which is easier for him.
I'm starting to get really paranoid. What can I do to stop being jealous of him?
It's tearing our once strong relationship apart...
Thing is.. every time I'm around people who I don't think like me - I always make a fool of myself! Or find it hard to talk to them...
How do I get out of this?
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I feel ya. You feel like you're kinda loosing him. And its ok to feel like that. I live pretty close to a major city and yea...its fun. It's easy to go to the city and hang out and find anything to do w/friends. Granted I've always lived near a big city so finding fun things to do is easy and its easy to become a social butterfly when you're around many others.
With that said, you living in the country can make it a little hard to get together. The city is full of places to go and things to do whereas the countryside may have a few bars and one hot spot. If he's of age (21+) then he's probably havin a field day because of all the new spots he can go to.
Translation::: Don't feel like the weird girl. I mean, I'm sure you have friends too right? You gotta have sum girlfriends that you can get down with every now and then. Now I'm not sayin match him night for night (i.e. when he goes out, you go out). I'm just sayin, you have to find what makes you happy (hobbys, things to do, etc). This is so very important in a relationship. Because if you allow your man's life to morph into your life, you will find yourself loosing your own identity.
That normally happens in marriages and its called the popular "Mid-Life Crisis".0