Hi guys, so my ex had dumped me a few months ago, however, soon after the break up he wanted to remain friends. That was on/off. Now, he wants to be best friends, (which ended up with some benefits) however since we've both been away for summer, he hasn't messaged or contacted me like he said he wanted to. He seems very keen on my other friend and even bothers to contact them and arrage plans. This leaves me feeling hurt since it seems like he is leading me on but now longer cares. Ideally, we should stay friends since we are going to the same school for the next two years. What should I do? is he just using me and leading me on? should I just forget him? Or should i give him time for this best friend thing to work?
Most Helpful Guy
Do not give the "Best friend" or friend or friend with benefits a thought. All that will do is confuse you. Just think of him as a normal friend despite the past relationship. Take your mind off of him for a moment and think about your other (male) friends. Would you have an intimate relationship with them? Exactly. Just think of it like that and you will be fine.0
Most Helpful Girl
... Some benefits...
With This, no longer two birds of a feather, he is Mistaking your kindly Kindness for Woo Weakness, and is taking you and This for granted, knowing you will be around and still Feels you are His 'Ship' and Slip Mate.
He has you in his back pocket and it seems he is self assured you won't jump ship from the bestie idea he has ever come up with. He can have his sweet cake and eat it Two by putting you on the back burner, contacting and seeing you when he feels like going with you on the Good ship Lollipop and in the Meantime... Seems keen on my other friend and even bothers to contact them..
You need to sit this sailor down and make a few ground rules of your own. Tell him you enjoy being friends but will not be put out to sea this easily and if he thinks he is going to come and go like the wind, tell him to go blow.
Good luck. xx0