let me make this story brief. there is this girl I used to date while I was 16 and things went a bit bad because I was a bit too into her. After her I had a lot of other dating experiences and I changed as a person. We finally met again in summer 2009 when I went back home for vacation. We spent a lot of time together but nothing sexual happened. She is the only girl I'm not really looking at her for sexual reasons and she doesn't give that vibe. in other words she is a bit uptight when it comes to things we usually enjoy with girls. For me its a plus though because those girls are a bit rare to find these days and I need something bigger than only sexual attraction. After the summer ended I traveled back to Canada and I asked her if we can be together. She was like she doesn't want to lose me over a long distance relationship and that she does have feelings for me and what not but she is really sure we would lose each other if we did this long distance bull crap. I rushed into being with her because my fear is for her to find someone else so I tripped balls a bit. Anyhow I struggled to keep in touch with her while I was there and now I'm back Home and when I messaged her she didn't sound that excited of my presence. The thing is she waits for me to do all these moves and I'm not sure what would happen if I stop. I texted her and she was out of town till monday and I'm not sure if I should be calling her on monday or just waiting to see if she would approach me . I wouldn't be that concerned if she didn't mention that she had feelings for me but I do know that girls tend to lie and play games. What do you guys think I should be doing ? she keeps me hanging and she is the first one to be doing this to me. I can't act cocky when it comes to her and that's what is the problem. I know you ladies won't be interested if you know a guy is interested in you. I ruined the mystery by letting her know that I'm into her. Let me leave the advice to you guy. your help and honest feedback is appreciated thanks ladies
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Well that wasn't short by any means =P
Here's what I noticed:
- Things didn't work out, so you both took a LONG time to reconnect
- You both kicked it off great and re-established the spark (it was never gone fyi)
- You stayed in touch and moved back to your home town, then moved back "home"
- She didn't seem as thrilled as she did "before" (about you relocating closer)
- She is busy till monday.
Hmm okay! *Puts on superman cape*
- Here's the catch. She told you before and it was very discrete, but she was worried! Think about it, she specifically stated that she didn't want the long term relationship because she was "scared" that it wouldn't work (maybe not in those words; however, it still applies).
So here is the benefit - she likes you... alot.
She is looking for things to work out, and she has her own priorities (whatever she is doing till Monday) which gives you the benefit to do one of those random unpredictable things; however, you have been doing a lot of that lately - in showing your affection to her. Girls like that when it's from the person they want! Quit believing the stereotypical bullsh*t and proceed. She loves you, I can feel it from across the internet. I don't need a PhD to see that one.
Do something sweet when she comes home - but don't try to make it "perfect" otherwise it'll seem superficial. Give the "moment" some thought but not enough to over-emphasize your passion for this woman.
(Example: [Scenario - she is coming home from a stressful holiday vacation, by traveling])
- Buy her favorite lotion and give her a back massage
** BAM! everything else is taken care of, your spending time with her, interacting with her, and you gave it some thought in buying her "favorite" **
Here is a --- BAD ---- Example (Same scenario):
- You buy her favorite lotion, make her favorite dinner, and rent her favorite movie. You then cover the house with a bunch of flowers, write her a poem, and then you sing the poem to her.
** Whoops! Where is the interaction? Your giving, giving, giving but your not actually receiving anything in return to create attraction. INTERACT WITH HER. Don't throw away your money to make things "sweet". This woman wants you - not materialistic crap, or false hopes and dreams*
Need more info / advice? Give me a hollar amigo ;D