Why do I keep thinking about the early stages of my ex and mines relationship and how he won me over?

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aficionado

Maybe that's just your mind's way of appreciating and reminding you of how hard he had to work to 'win you over'.
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- Asker
  
  Right :( but I don't know what that means now? Like is it meaning I need to work that hard to get him back?
  
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- aficionado
  
  Well... if you actually 'want' him back, and he does too, neither of you need to put in too much efforts again. It all depends on who dumped whom.
  
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- Asker
  
  We'll I know he still has feelings for me but he's not giving me a chance, it really doesn't make sense why he wouldn't
  
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- aficionado
  
  If it was you who dumped him, he is unlikely to give you a chance because he probably feels that after all he did to win you, you promptly dumped him.
  
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- Asker
  
  Nope he dumped me
  
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- aficionado
  
  Try to sit down and have a serious talk with him. Get things sorted out. It's certainly easier, usually, to reignite old feelings than starting new feelings from scratch.
  
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- Asker
  
  We'll I have asked him before I'd he wanted to get back together after I apologized for everything I could have done and he said "I don't want to get back together now". What Could THAT statement mean? I took it as not now but later down the road.
  
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- aficionado
  
  That means, he probably needs time to heal from the emotional wounds caused by the breakup, until he is ready to accept you again.
  
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- Asker
  
  Huh? How dI'd he not heal. So he does want to get back together then?
  
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- Asker
  
  Or no?
  
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- aficionado
  
  Can't say for sure. Just set a deadline. If you don't get an answer from him by then, you need to move on.
  
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- Asker
  
  We'll what does that phase sound like to you besides him healing? I mean why would he put the now at the end of it?
  
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- Asker
  
  Huh?
  
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- aficionado
  
  That means he is considering a reconciliation with you at some point, but he's not sure about it right now.
  
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- Asker
  
  It's been months and he's still not sure. Why us he taking so long?
  
  Is that why he's ignoring me at times?
  
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- aficionado
  
  If you feel you have waited too long, I suppose it's time to move on.
  
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- Asker
  
  If he's going to come back to me it hasn't been too long. I love him and if he's the one I should be able to wait right?
  
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- aficionado
  
  Yes, but there should be a limit for waiting as well. You can't wait indefinitely. That's not practical. And whether he loves you or not... you can't be sure unless he TELLS you.
  
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- Asker
  
  Yeah but can't I be sure by his actions?
  
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- aficionado
  
  No, his actions are pretty mixed right now. You can't be sure.
  
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- Asker
  
  Doesn't THAT Mean He Has Feelings For Me. I mean we act like a couple every time I see him?
  
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Most Helpful Girl

Anonymous

Sounds like thinking of all the good and romace in the begginging. And not thinking about the reasons it didn't work out. It's not a bad thing to reminice and to think about the things that worked and the things that didn't work.

After sometime thought this becomes unhealthy if you should be moving on. So try to limit these thoughts as much as possible. I know it's easier said than done.

I was broekn up from a 2 and half year relationship I was 100% in. Just a few weeks ago. Try to focus on you now and having fun :)
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You're not ready to let go.
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