I've been going out with this guy for a couple of weeks.
I don't love him. I'm not crazy about him. he's okay. I went out with him because he was very persistent and good looking. he seemed like a nice guy.
Anyway , my Pet rabbit just died. and I wad very frustrated because I didn't notice he was sick and he died right in my arms. He texted me? I texted back. he asked my what's wrong I told him crying my eyes out. He said :' he'll make a great rabbit stew". with stupid smiley faces. I was shocked , then I cried and I ended up getting mad and I told him it wasn't okay to say that , he said :' it's just an animal" that got me even angrier. I didn't reply , he texted back : " what about me ! you love me " he always does that. it's like the world revolves around him and him only. In my mind I was like : " No Fucker ! I love my dead Rabbit way more , at least he knows how to show compassion and warmth"
Anyway. I've had it this time. I'm just making sure I'm not overreacting.
thank you or your help.
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I would say it sounds completely like he is a really awful sympathizer. Half the people I've met were like that. I would say he is so upset to know you're crying that he panicked and is trying to cheer you up by trying to make you deny the fact. I know from experience that most guys use denial, or at the other extreme, excessive optimism to heal their wounds. And I know it upsets them terribly to see their girl cry. Technically, you could be dying but if you're not crying, they just won't take it as seriously.
But I also know that a lot of guys and maybe more girls than you think don't really know HOW to sympathize.
Also keep in mind that texting him about crying is not the same as crying in his face. It makes a BIG difference. HUGE. The emotion doesn't really transfer over text. As humans, our emotion receptors aren't designed to receive and response to texts. Next time try calling him so he hears your actual voice. Or even better, run over to his place crying, or ask him to come over to your place, so he can see you. Then judge his reaction.
Also texting sends the subliminal message that you're not feeling too bad and your issue is not that big of deal, otherwise you wouldn't be texting, but would probably doing something more serious. Imagine if god forbid, something bad happened to your best friend. Would you text your other best friends to tell them about it, or would you naturally pick up the phone and call them, or try to get to see them in person as soon as possible?2