Just curious and would like people's views.
How can you still love a person who has done so many bad things to you?
Most Helpful Guy
I think everyone has their own reasons but I stayed in bad relationships because I didn't want to give up. I fealt like walking away was telling the other person they weren't good enough. I fealt like walking away was saying I wasn't good enough to fix things either. I just couldn't handle the idea of giving up. Once I realized that being compassionate included onesself it was easier for me to realize I was better off living a healthier life and showing this same type of tenacity and compassion from a healthy place than dwelling in a unhealthy place trying to pull someone up with me. I stopped holding on to those that fall and started throwing down ropes ladders that they could use if they wanted too. I guess I realized I should take on helping others with their problems because I want to and not because I had too it let me act a little more selfishly and take care of myself without feeling guilty. These days I've learned to love people because I understand that we all want the same thing an end to suffering, I know not everyone knows the best ways of getting there so it's easy to forgive people's short comings but I also understand our own personal responsibility for our own lives and I know no matter how much I help the majority of the work in their life has to be done by them and they're not my responsibility.1
Most Helpful Girl
I was actually in this situation recently. I was friends with a guy for several years, he was there when nobody else was so I felt like I NEEDED him to stay around, and I recently decided to cut him loose.
I recently read a book that said "It's not the bad memories that tear a person apart. It's the good ones"
I think that's true. Because he was nice to me for a long time before he was a bad. My mind didn't register "oh this guy is actually really bad for you, you need to leave" so I didn't for the longest time.
But that's just what I think. Could be wrong.1