I seriously don't know how to get through this life. My ex left 3 months ago we have children so I can't do the no contact rule because of the children. He really has put me through hell but despite everything I still love him dearly. He just told me he is in love with someone after I sent h a message pretty much pouring my heart out. I can't get over any of this and I am tired of acting so weak and desperate. I have no self esteem and suffer from anxiety. I really don't know how to cope and know that I really do deserve much better. I know my behaviour isn't normal and I just do not know how to get over him and get use to the idea that the girls will be spending time with them both. I seriously can't stand it. Please I just need non judgmental advice.
Most Helpful Guy
I highly doubt he suddenly got morals and is an honorable man.
He's still probably a jerk who gets women pregnant then leaves them, and never even considers doing the right thing, which is pledging his life to you in marriage, never to leave or stray from you.
Basically, it's going to happen again. This new woman he is "in love" with is going to get sick of his BS and dump him like a bad habit. When that happens, if you have played your cards right, he will come crawling back to you.
Now, this is the hard part. When he does, you must be the most gentle, submissive, kind, wonderful woman you can possibly be- even if he spits in your face.
Why? Because the masculine desire the feminine. If you truly love this man and want to keep him, simply be who God created you to be: An affectionate, kind hearted, supportive, loving, FORGIVING woman who truly loves her man with the deepest of affections.
No man can resist this. Not even a jerk who gets a woman pregnant then leaves her. Soon his face will be red with embarrassment over how he could leave such a faithful, devoted, TRULY loving woman.1
Most Helpful Girl
I have great news for you. You will get over it before you know it. My sister got dumped by her husband of 12 year for a young co-worker of his. They have two girls and a 6 month old baby. She helped him pay for his career as an engineer and as soon as he got his $95,000 a year contract with the helped of our father, he dumped my sis and moved in with his new girl.
My sister loved him soo much, but even after we tried to help her nothing really worked. We learn that in a situation like one, the only one that can pull through is her. She did and we were there to help her in anyway possible. You look beautiful and you need to go out with someone that will make you smile. No falling in love, just fun and lots of sex lol. It worked for my sister, it worked for my causin and my friends sister. It will work for you. Focus on your kids and be happy that they are healthy and that you will get over him.
I hope you move on and just know that when the time is right, your hearth will let go of him. Now do not expect for it to be nothing left, because you will always have him in a special place in you. But I promise you that you will be fine. Just let time heal you and have fun with your kids. Is my email if you need more help. Kathylogan85@yahoo. com1