So my guy talks to his ex still, even after I have told him it bothers me. Let me give you the full story on that. He says he doesn't call her, she calls him and he doesn't want to be rude so he says hey and all that. She is fully aware we are together this I know, however this girl calls 3-5 times a week. Now another bit of this is when she found out we were seeing each other she wrote me a message saying they were back together and I needed to leave him alone. She obviously was wrong, however I thought he didn't talk to her anymore, I found out about a month or two later he did. He said its casual, but she does tell him she still loves him and misses him and will ALWAYS be there for him. she also plays the sympathy card and knows he is a nice guy and will listen and try to help her out. He said he has told her he loves me, and she knows that they have nothing, however he just won't stop talking to her. He tells me he doesn't understand why it bothers me so much. I told him he is NAIVE and that she is playing him into her hands, and in the meantime trying to cause us problems and making me look like the jealous one, when SHE is the one stirring the sh*t up. Basically I know the game and what she is doing. She can't stand it he is happy with me. So the last straw is that she called me last week saying he still talked to her, and that he would always want her and I was stupid to think it was over between them. I told her to kiss my ass and prove it if she could otherwise Grow up, Move on and get out of our lives. So then she calls him 3 times this weekend that I know of. I flipped out on him and told him basically its me or her, it bothered me, he was giving her all the ammunition she needed to mess with me, and it was ridiculous. He needed to let go of the past and then we wouldn't have this to argue about. He said he let go of her a long time ago, and he loved me and that it shouldn't bother me. Finally after two days of this he said he wouldn't talk to her anymore. HOWEVER, I want to know if I am being unreasonable, because I don't think I am, and also should I trust that he isn't still talking to her, or do you think he will and just not be honest about it? PLEASE Give me advice! I have a great relationship with this guy other than other GIRLS, and I can tolerate friends, but the EX who is talking sh*t to me, I cannot handle!
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not permanently, but for a period of time, yes. if it is bothering your current s/o then you should take a break from the friendship you have with the ex until your current s/o is more accepting of it. perhaps they just need to meet, or they just need to know that there is nothing left between the two of you. but I don't think you should lose a friend for good.0