He broke up with me two months ago due to fights. We didn't talk for a month. I've worked on the areas of concern and will continue to better myself. We got coffee the other day which turned into hanging out for 5 hours in which HE initiated . I told him I'd like to slowly date again. He told me: He is scared and can't risk being in the same situation again. He is beginning his docorate and can't take the stress of things going back to way things were. He can't see us dating because he remembers how we fought and it hurt him. He really cares about me and the onlly way he would consider it is if I truly have the self esteem I deserve. He can't base a descision after only seeing each other once in a long time. He said all he can offer right now is 100% friendship and he still wants us to be in each others lives. After that HE iinitiated holding me on my bed and he kissed me on my cheek (nothing else happened). The longer we aren't together the more it hurts. I know I need more patience but need some advice on how to do so? I feel like he is kind of all over the place with what he tells me and his actions. I know he does care about me and maybe even still loves me but I don't know how to break this wall down and give us another chance again.
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Just because two people Breakup doesn't mean they can't and don't Makeup and that it's Goodbye, my love forever. And with two Ex, who still Marks an X in one another's softie spot,@Newgirl244, there may come a time down the love line when he tells You... All he can offer right now is 100% friendship...
If you still love him, which I see that you do, you need to make a choice here, dear. Either hang in there and on a whim and a prayer, go slow with this newfound "Friendship' that he has so Generously has given you an Option, so you both can possibly nurse and nurture a nice relationship once more, that just Might go back To... The way we were, only better this time around.
If you feel your heart get broken, that you will not be able to take the heart break of Here today and maybe Not tomorrow with his own free bird ways these days, then move on and focus on you and begin your beguine of licking your war wounds. This sort of relationship is Never 100% guarantee and to make it worse, put more coals in the friendship fire, Friends with benefits doesn't always help in becoming two birds of a feather again.
Do some soul searching. Right now, with you back in his life with little strife, he wants you but also he wants... His cake and eat it Two with his own sweet treat.
Good luck. xx1
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