Girls, Guys, do you think this guy ever cared?
What Guys Said 2
sounds like commitment just isn't his thing. It doesn't sound like your thing either, to be honest. You said you wanted to "change" him. That's not commitment to a person, that's commitment to a project. To me, commitment means you accept things exactly as they are, and will never waiver in your support, no matter what. Perhaps he sensed that you didn't share his definition of commitment, and thus didn't want to share a commitment.
Sometimes scars from previous relationships affect us more than we realise. I was hurt by a girl many years ago and it was deep and even now it still comes to the surface at times usually when I'm a bit down. I makes me very suspicious of everyone and especially those who i am closest to. I think maybe he thinks too much of you to want to really hurt you and this is his way of backing off before he sells out to you too much.
You might get face to face with him and have a real good chat about the two of you and tell him what you want. That is if you really want him. Other than that I can't offer much in the way of help. but blame the previous woman for his resistance. You need to tell him that in no uncertain terms you don't think he's an asshole. XXX
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