I've been having some issues with a guy I really like. If you check my previous posts you'll get what has been going on with us. It has been some time since I talked to him and I'm still hurting. It sucks that he has someone new and is so happy (that's what he told me when he called me only to brag to me about her) and I don't have anyone new. I haven't been approched by any guys and the online dating scene is just a bunch of slime balls that want to hook up. I don't want to feel like this anymore and I want to get over it and never think about him again. How do you REALLY get over someone you really cared about and hurt you? Why is it that the people use others and treat them like crap get to be happy?
Most Helpful Guy
From the story it seems like he want you to hurt. Him calling you to let you know how good things are going is a way for to try to get over you. Things I did to get over someone was exercise and play basketball. Those the things that help me keep my mind off that person.
So whatever it is that you like to do, you should do it. Take time out and love yourself by doing things for you.
So many guys make the mistake to move into a new relationship really fast to get over a person. Let him make the mistake and block all contacts with him and move on.0
Most Helpful Girl
To get over the person you have to cut them out of your life completely. Make sure there is no way he can call you. And if he somehow does, hang up! I know I hate to hang up on people because I don't want to seem rude. But this guy does not deserve any more of your precious time!
You were giving him money and supporting him, and he has the nerve to tell you how great things are with this new girl when you put your foot down and refused to be used? Ugh! I can't believe this guy!
Stop seeing his posts on facebook, remove him from your friends list if you have him on there, take him off of instagram, or any other things you have.
Tell your friends not to talk about him, and just do things you enjoy.
Get out and meet new people. Even if it's not someone you want to date, it doesn't hurt to go out for a coffee with someone.
It takes time, sometimes a while before you can find someone new. The only reason he found someone so fast, I would have to guess is she was in his life already.
To me, his moving on fast seems like nothing more than desperation on his part. He needed you to support him, and when you refused he had to find someone else. Otherwise how else could he fund himself? It's not like he was going to do it!
He probably doesn't even care about this girl. By the sounds of it, he did it because he was using you for money.
Try to realize that you are now better off without him. A guy who truly loves you is going to love and support you and not use you as a bank. That goes for guys too! Girls who love them are not going to just see them as a walking atm.
It's definitely going to take time, and it's perfectly normal to feel the way you do. You have been hurt by someone you love and that sucks big time!
Do your best to keep busy. I find that really helps!
This guy may seem to be happy, but it's a facade. He isn't really happy. His life must suck that he has to have people around to fund his life. I don't know his situation, but if he was using you for money, the truth is he's probably using her now. So is this really a good situation? No, you seem to have won. You get your life back and now you don't have him using you all the time :) One day you will see how truly freeing that really is :)1