My son is 4 years old and each time he comes back from his dad's house he is filthy. I mean dirty clothes, skin has dirty, hair matted and I am just frustrated. My ex has already gotten married and he still is a jerk and I don't have anything to do with him.
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My step-mom's ex husband kept harassing her. Telling her she was a terrible mom. Calling her fat even though she's very attractive (and he's about 280lbs with no muscle). Always asking her for money.
One day he was over, because she unfortunately still has to let her son live with him. He started arguing with her. Then told my dad about how he was never getting good sex again because she's to ugly and boring and *insert more bullshit*. My dad's always stayed out of it been polite and just stood near to make sure the guy didn't get physical. I was in the living room and got a little pissed and walked in like her ex wasn't there and said something along the lines of "Hey you guys need to tone it down at night when I'm trying to get some sleep, not sure what's going on, but i'm pretty sure you're making just about the whole damn neighborhood jealous. It's getting annoying to hear 'oh god you're so big' over and over for an hour straight"
Some of the he details are probably off since it was about 5 years ago, but i distinctly remembering the ex getting real quiet, and leaving without saying another word... he was a dick.
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First off, I want to say that I am sorry that you are having to deal with this!
I feel super bad for your son, because it sounds like his father is not being very fair to him at all, even though he has done nothing wrong.
I've never understood how when someone breaks up with the father or mother of their child, how they can just start treating their child like crap or put them in the middle. It's an incredibly selfish way of dealing with things.
The only thing I can say is to hang in there. Don't try to agitate him, just kind of go with the flow. Do what you need to do to help your son and raise him right.
If it's at all possible, try to sit down with him and have a talk. Now that he is with someone new, there is no reason for him to have such animosity towards you. He should be happy with the new person in his life.
Remind him that he has a duty to his son as his father and that he needs to treat his son right. Try to work out a plan if possible.