I have social anxiety, especially in unfamiliar groups and large crowds. Today at dinner my boyfriend was insisted by his family that he take me with him to a 21st party. He said no and went on to explain why; that he once took me to a 21st and i sat alone and awkward not talking to anyone and that he and others felt sorry for me, so he would be obliged to come and talk with me and this made his night less enjoyable and that I would not enjoy myself. So therefore he would never take me to another party, let alone to someones who I don't know. I am embarrassed by what he said in front of his family and also because they were shocked that he would be so rude to me in such a setting. How should I react? I'm really upset but if I tell him this I know that it will become an argument and he will just say he was being honest because that is how I am. Our arguments tend to only be brief because I can't hold on to angry feelings and because he never takes them seriously.
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i would dump that asshole honestly!0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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Maybe there's something I don't really understand here but I just don't see this as rude? I suffer from anxiety myself and would be happy knowing that my partner is aware of it and willing to explain it to those who don't understand. Obviously I can't speak for you but like I said, I don't understand what he did wrong here. He was just honest to his parents, told them that the both of you would have a bad time at the party if you were there because you have social anxiety, and because he would feel bad over the fact that you feel bad. How is that rude? What should he have told them instead, in your opinion? Should he have taken you to the party anyway, despite knowing it would make you uncomfortable?2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE