Most Helpful Girl
I think it's inevitable , pain changes everyone! Personally, heartbreak has defined who i have become. I belive i am stronger now, but strength only means... how well you hide the pain. I'm a very guarded person now , and i tend not to trust like i used to. I'm single right now, and my heart is on reserve for the right person... if i ever find him. I'd rather be patient and wait than to settle for just anyone.
I can't pinpoint a time when i changed, my personality gradually changed over time. I like who i have become, but there's times i miss the laidback, hapy-go -lucky , trusting person i used to be.1
Most Helpful Guy
I feel you, bro! And this kind of change in behaviour is not as uncommon as we believe.
When my ex cheated on me and I dumped her, these were her words "If you break up with me, it's your loss. A gorgeous girl like me can easily find another guy, but an average looking guy like you would never find someone like me again".
I don't know if I was actually affected by her words. This was pretty long back. After that, I was just involved in one rebound, which obviously failed. Have been single for over 5 years now. But my self confidence, until recently was at an all-time low. I feel too unattractive and undesirable, and have been stuck with the notion that every woman in the world will reject me, so I never tried approaching women these past 5 years (except once, when I got rejected as expected).
I have slowing begun regaining my confidence, but I have no idea if and when I can actually approach women again. I'm intimidated by them, and have developed a morbid fear of rejection. :(2