Why do a lot of people hate their exes?

It's hard to believe that someone could hate someone that they had once cared about so much.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • I tried not too, but:
    -She had been flirting around a lot with another guy behind my back for a month and left me for him, literally dating him in like 3 days after she broke up.
    -She broke up with me by phone, it was all my fault according to her. Even when I tried to explain, "but you said x, y, and z are what you wanted" she'd make some excuse.
    -Her goal was to change me during the relationship, yes she said that herself when she broke up with me.
    -She whored her new boyfriend out on social media, I didn't get a fraction of the attention in 6 months on her profiles as the guy got in 2 weeks. Also, "Happy two week anniversary! I love you!" made me realize how immature she was when she posted that.
    -She told everyone in my high school that I assaulted her, which was a lie.
    -She is now trying to talk to me after her last 3 boyfriends didn't work out in the past year and a half and she's now lonely. I'm having none of it.

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  • It's not hard to believe when two people let a relationship rot. In the end, two people may despise each other because they were too immature to be in love (that's actually a thing I believe in). What I mean by that is (everyone matures at their own pace so the age varies from person to person) a romantic relationship between two people will only be happy and successful and healthy when they've gone through certain things and learned about themselves, how to *actually* be more selfless, and to prioritize and care for your partner's happiness and health, etc.

    Relationships require strenuous work sometimes. Sometimes it's not handled well or two people don't meet halfway or whatever the case is, and the relationship rots like an unwatered plant and the two people may end up disliking each other because they channel their hurt relationship (hurt feelings) and emptiness to their partner.

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What Guys Said 18

  • Cause they were idiots in the first place. It's not logically possible to go from loving every aspect of someone to hating every aspect. Because in reality, the ex's personality didn't significantly change between the time you started dating and the time it was over. You either 1) were too blind to notice her bad traits in the first place or 2) didn't get to know her well enough before you started dating.

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  • Mine says the same thing. I've always been compassionate as a person. So I forgive people sometimes a little to easy. I only have one ex I truly hate and that was because she sores lies about me to people and it cost me my job at the time. Don't let it bother you. Someone will come along that is right for u!

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  • I don't and have never hated any of my exes. I don't talk to any of them, but I hope they are all doing well and are happy in life.

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  • I don't think I've hated any of them, i try and stay civil at least, but I would like to avoid some of them. The so called hate could be from how you broke up, why, and how long ago it was.

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  • i allways ask myself the same question. but i guess it often turns out, you really got the wrong idea of what a person is like and you "hate" them aftwerwards, because she was so different from what you hoped she was like.

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  • Having very bitter opinions of my ex girlfriend makes it easier for me to move on. Holding onto those intimate feelings and positive memories you have toward that person for several years can make it that much harder to date again.

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  • Because obviously something happened between those two persons. And I don't really believe it is really hate we're talking about. At least not in most cases.

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  • Well some exes do very fucked up things to them like for example my ex had a threesome wiht my two "best friends" and made it so I wlked in on them fucking

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  • Cause she's a sex-obsessed bitch if i refuse she starts at yelling and wants to break up. i made her have an orgasm so she woke me early to do it again

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  • Because it is only then when they realize what kind of shit person they really have been with.
    Some friction is necessary for a break up after all.

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  • It depends on why they broke up. If someone cheated on me then I wouldn't exactly still care about when they clearly wouldn't care about me. Having said that, I don't hate any of my exes. I don't particularly want to be best friends with them, but I don't hate them.

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  • Love and hate are very closely related. It's not that hard.

    With a lot of people it's because they cared about someone so much they didn't think that person could hurt them so much. Often after a relationship people become cold to make it easier. Which hurts.

    I hate my ex for a very good reason though, as do many.

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  • I all would depend on how the relationship was. Maybe the person was abusive in some way or brought the person down to the point they felt lower than the dirt. There are some people that try and get back with their exes because they still love them.

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  • There's a fine line between Love/hate, but a lot of the times it ends bad, but circumstances vary, so it really all depends on what went wrong. 'hate' is a strong word tho, just like 'love'

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  • Because the pain they made you feel can sometimes only be expressed through the most powerful of emotions - hate and anger.

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  • sad right?

    well it depends on what happened between them.. I'm sure there r countless situations that lead people to dislike their exes.

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  • Usually relationships end with fighting and feelings of resentment or discomfort towards each other and it can be hard to not hate them afterwards.

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  • I hate two of them because they mislead me and hurt me. The one cheated and the other left me for a coworker after 4 years, which in that case you can't just be friends after that.

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  • the thing is... once that person betrays you /hurts your feelings all you can feel for that person is a deep feeling of hatred and nothing else

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  • It's easier to move on when you don't attach the romantic feelings to them anymore.

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