When he broke up with me I was stunned and could hardly talk. I didn't see any of this coming. We had a romantic weekend a few days before and two days later he was leaving me for someone else. I never got to say what I wanted to say. We were best friends and now he is just gone. I feel that I should have some voice even if the letter is not replied too.
- Should I write the letter for closure and not send it?Vote A
- Should I write the letter and send it?Vote B
- Should I not write one at all?Vote C
Most Helpful Guy
You may choose any of the above. If you do write/send a letter realize that it probably won't have much of an effect on him. He has moved on.
One possible benefit it that it may have a positive effect on you in being better able to leave behind this sad chapter of your life.
In my own life I have turned to writing a letter to Myself in times of life crises. (Loss of a relationship, death, change of job.) I look back at old letters and realize how much I've grown or I have seen the blessing in having endured difficult change.1
Most Helpful Girl
Same happened to me, but my ex didn't dump me for someone else, he dumped me just to be alone. He never gave me a real reason, didn't even want to meet face to face, he dumped me over Skype. That happened 6 months ago and I'm still not over him. However, I don't blame him anymore. He did what he needed to do the only way he knew how to do it. I learned that not everyone can be the way I am, simply because we have different experiences and mindset.
I thought about sending him a letter as well, many times. I always got the urge to write down everything I feel and think, but then I just give up because it's too hard. I finally decided to do it a week ago. I wrote a "letter" 5 pages long. Cried my soul out on it. When I finished it I felt so good. It's really a masterpiece lol, I could be writer. But then I realized that there is no point in sending it. It doesn't matter if he knows or not how I feel, I shouldn't think about how he feels and thinks anymore. It's only me now. I think he knows how I feel anyways, and I think he is aware of much damage he left me with, so no need to remind him. He moved on, he doesn't miss me, he doesn't think about me, he is happier now on his own - and I should do the same.
That letter was just for me and I don't think I'm gonna read it again anytime soon. But I'm glad I wrote it, I might write another one when I get to feel differently. It's definitely a good way of releasing the emotions. If one day he asks me how I've been doing all this time (if he really seems interested in knowing) then I might send him that. But I doubt that will ever happen. I recommend that you write it but don't send it. Maybe you too won't have the desire to send it anymore.1