Eventually, I started dating someone else because I decided I needed to move on with my life. My most recent ex was great and we dated 4 months, but I ended things with him before I left to study abroad for 5 months. I really liked him a lot, but was afraid that I had forgotten what it was like to be happy single. I felt like I might be using him as a crutch to fill the void in my life...I was determined to ensure he wasn't a rebound, and wanted to make sure I was in the relationship for all the right reasons by doing some soul searching. I discovered that I really did like him and was indeed over my first ex...but by that time he already had a new girlfriend. I was upset that I blew my opportunity, but accepted my decision. I needed that time to be single so I could learn to re-love myself and grow stronger as a person. We are still on good terms and are friends. I sense that he still kind of likes me and isn't really into his new girlfriend...but I hurt him pretty badly and doubt he would ever want me back. I can live with that, I did the right thing.
Recently, I've been talking to my first ex a lot and he wants to date exclusively and spend time with me, but doesn't want a relationship. He is graduating after this semester and is looking at positions involving the military, so he doesn't know where he will have to go/what he will have to do. This also stresses him out a lot. He says because of this he wants to see each other and be exclusive, but just enjoy the time left we have together and play things by ear. What should I do? To this day he is one of my very best friends and I don't want to destroy that friendship. It took me a long time to reach the point I'm totally happy being friends. Plus, I don't want to get hurt again. At the same time, a part of me wants to be able to hold someone I care about, even if we are just friends. Is there a chance things could work out? Am a being silly for wanted a 'relationship' when he is exclusive to me? Am I just asking for heartache or should I give him a chance?
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If he doesn't want a relationship and just wants to date that is code for the status quo from before you two broke up last time. Best to stay friends if you want to keep him in your life, and find someone who is ready to commit to more than just dating. The problem the first time was commitment and it will be commitment this time.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE