My ex boyfriend and I broke up for personal reasons after 2 years of being together (I broke it off) a little over a week ago. We talked yesterday and came to the agreement that we might be able to make things work. It was an awkward subject, but we asked if the other was already dating or trying to see other people and we both said no. He had told me that he downloaded a dating app to try and get his mind off of me, but that he wasn't actively trying to find someone else. I (having been cheated on and lied to countlessly in other relationships) wasn't sure of his response, so I got on that app and saw that he was "online now". I don't know how he can say that he's not trying to pursue any other girls yet he's on that app. Being that we're not together I don't really have a say in what he does, but it upset me that he was even on that app after we had talked about potentially getting back together. I've always loved him and trusted him because he is a very genuine and loyal person, and I trust everything he tells me. he's never given me a reason to doubt him. I'm now second-guessing getting back with him because of seeing him on that app. He told me he had it, and he also told me he wasn't trying to get with girls... so if that's the case then why have it and why be on it? Him cheating or being disloyal was never an issue im just afraid that because of this breakup our relationship will have new problems (possibly even those), as much as I don't want to believe it. Should I be concerned about this or is it possible he will delete them when we get back together?
Most Helpful Guy
I believe in second chances. You should not worry and just get back together.0
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Honestly, the fact that he told you about the app at all earned trust in my book. You are broken up, he didn't have to tell you anything at all. I think what he meant is that he gets on and looks and perhaps chats, but had no intentions of meeting up to this point? That's my guess.
Anyway, the real question should be, have those issues that caused the break up in the first place, resolved? If not, then you shouldn't get back together. If so, I don't see his dating app as a reason to stop you. Unless however, he keeps getting on it once you're back together.2