Most Helpful Guy
This post raises some questions, because it seems very vague.
What do you mean by "man up"? Support you financially?
--Did he *want* the kids, or did you? "Mistakes" on your part are like entrapment, frankly.
--What sort of abuse was there? Goading him until he snaps is its *own* form of abuse, frankly.
--What sort of trust issues were there?1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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Most Helpful Girl
This '7 years,' @MonkeyGirl08, is the 'Itch' that I talk about, when someone goes into a different change in their life and the SO ends up suffering because of it. You have suffered in silence Long enough.
He will never Change, you are wise to see this. It was also 'Wise' to take the kids and just be apart in heart for them. This schmo of a Joe will Never change his stripes and colors and you could get old real quick just waiting and giving him more than one chance in romance.
Talk to your own lawyer. Start the proceedings. He is deliberately Not into 'Divorce' because he wants his sweet cake and eat it two with having the Good life, but Yet... Leaving you as a side course, of course, and doesn't want to share his second helpings with someone else who You deserve your dessert better with.
Good luck. xx0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE