I have been married to my husband for 7 years, we have been together for 9 years. We have a hard relationship abusive and trust issues. I gave him chance after chance to man up and take care of me and our 2 kids and he never did it. But the only reason i didn't give up on him was because i know the great guy that he can be. But after so long of him not changing i had to break up with him 2 years ago. We still talk for our kids but he don't want the divorce. I care about him so much but he still hasn't changed. Should i give him another chance or just get the divorce.
Most Helpful Guy
This post raises some questions, because it seems very vague.
What do you mean by "man up"? Support you financially?
--Did he *want* the kids, or did you? "Mistakes" on your part are like entrapment, frankly.
--What sort of abuse was there? Goading him until he snaps is its *own* form of abuse, frankly.
--What sort of trust issues were there?1
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Most Helpful Girl
The divorce. As long as that title is holding you down you can never move on, if you've been separate for 2 years, free yourself from him. Obviously remain on good grounds for the kids, but he has to accept that it is NOT a marriage anymore, and keeping the title will not miraculously make it a marriage3