Me and my boyfriend has been together for 7 years and he want a baby now. Thing is I don't want any. I mean I do but I always wanted to adopt. When we first started dating we had this conversation before and he told he didn't want kids. I was happy because I didn't want any either. He changed his mind and I don't know what to do. The idea of getting fat, stretch marks, and messing up my body isn't appealing. I'm not gonna look at myself the same way afterwards. I have a 4 pack, skinny waste, hips, and nice butt. No stretch marks. I don't want to ruin my body. I like babies and I think they're adorable but I honestly believe they aren't worth messing up my body over. Call it selfish but it's my body first. If he leaves me because of it, I'll be fine with it. He deserves to be his kind of happy. I can't give him what he wants. I'm just really depressed. He was my first everything and now I think it's over. I feel really dead inside. My family isn't being supportive. Saying it's my job as a woman to give birth and messing up my body I work so hard for. I'm just lost. I don't even want to live anymore.
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You're family shouldn't be so pushy about the subject and should support whichever move you decide to do. I think you guys need to have one of those "what are we looking for down the road" talks and see if you guys can work together to find something that will make you both happy. If there's just things where one of you is going to be miserable then you guys should talk about your options (that includes breaking up). You have every right to not want a kid just like he has every right to desire one. You both need to do what is best for each of you. If he's not happy with adopting and wants his own flesh and blood child then you guys may want to go your separate ways.1