- Yes I do
- No I don't
Most Helpful Girl
I personally don't believe in child support as in most cases it goes to the woman raising the children and she gets ridiculous sums of money. There will be an active father in the child's life yet she'll still ask for half of his paycheck every month. I think a father is infinitely more important than a check and if he tries to actively be in that child's life but the mother refuses she doesn't deserve a dime. Don't have children you're incapable of taking care of on your own in case anything happens. She's a grown woman and she should be able to manage, and if she allows the father to be there naturally then things wouldn't be much of a burden to begin with. Now if it is a man or a woman who just refuses to do anything, then sure I guess. But 100% of that money goes to the child's current needs and should be invested into their future, not help you pay a couple of bills. My mom personally didn't do a single thing for me growing up and my dad didn't ask her for one red cent regardless of when he was struggling or not. I personally believe child support is trash but for the sake of voting yes, the woman should very well pay child support and it should be as ridiculous in sum as the men tend to be stuck with.
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Most Helpful Guy
I have had custody of my son for over a decade. In that time I have sought exactly ZERO child support from his mother.
I have always been well employed. His mother, on the other hand, barely manages to not be homeless. Can't get blood from a turnip. No point in even trying.
Gaining custody was not a grab for resourses. I was seeking the welfare of my child. That decision is paid back to me every day when I see my successful, well adjusted sixteen year old.
Toward that end, accepting child support from her would be acknowledging that she has a role in his life. I have sought to minimize her influence on him as it has been for the most part negative.
Lest you get the wrong impression, I don't bad talk her in his presence. Neither do I keep him from spending time with her. I just try to keep her at arm's distance (possibly further).
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