Ok so this girl I loved broke up with me during Christmas. Anyways she's now hitting me up on facebook all of a sudden.
1. Liking my statuses, tagging me on a post (first time in months).
2. She's asking me for recommendations on books that she should read.
3. Two days ago she messaged me asking me for advice on investment (I'm not into investment) and I didn't respond, but showed that I saw it.
4. Then tonight I posted a status on "going on a roadtrip this winter to see if she would respond, she responded with "where do you wanna go". But I didn't respond
To be honest she suddenly started hitting me up as soon as I felt a loss of attraction, but now that she did the feelings came back but I'm more self controlled than ever before. I'm literally a much much better person. But what do you guys think? A part of me hopes she returns, but I don't think someone can like someone again. I told her i loved her in the past and she never said it back. I don't know what to think.
Most Helpful Girl
We need to know the context of the breakup, what were her reasons and what was both of yours love background (in case there is an ex in the way). From there I can tell you if she is playing with you or not.
I myself am in a breakup mode: he said he needed time and space last week but texted a few times, saying he thinks about me. And now, he say he is gonna call me: should I answer his call or keep up the no contact treatment?
Give me your advice and also tell me your background: Im 30 and had quite a few experiences so I can give you good advice
Most Helpful Guy
Yep, I would say she is at least interested in keeping you as a prospect/backup if her current interests go bad.
Without knowing more about what the breakup was about or whether it was for neutral or negative reasons the advice I can give is pretty limited.
You probably hit on the biggest reason when you wrote, "I'm literally a much much better person". Self improvement does not go unnoticed but it also means that she should be bringing a lot more to the table than just stirring up old feelings for her to be a potential prospect for you. There are a lot of wonderful people out there, you will do yourself a favor by expanding your horizons and make her really compete for your affection again.
You have the ball, make it count. :)