We have been dating for almost a year, all was well, but the thing is he had not time to himself alone between his ex which he left ( 6 years relationship) and us too meeting and dating, only one week.
So he was a little different anxious... and one week ago he told be he did not know if he wanted to commit. He was confused but knew he had feelings for me and was not planning to see other girls.
He said we keep in touch. I said I understood his decision and respected it ( lie).
I automatically decided not to respond to his texts (1 call and 3 texts from him in a week). The last two texts said " I think of you all the time". To which I replied "so do I but you wanted time alone to think".
The second text I got was last night "I'll call you tommorow, I'm thinking about you". I did not want him to think I was missing him too much so I just replied later " oh... I just got your message".
I know that answer was vague but at least I did not sound needy.
So he is going to call me and my question is should I asnwer the phone, do absolutely nothing or just not asnwer and reply I was busy?
I read a lot of stuff on the net and many relationship coaches say the best thing to do is to respect a 30 days no contact treatment. Or only answer to message if he needs something from me or if he is planning a date.
I think I should keep with the 30 days silent treatment but it has only been a week ! Plus I'm not sure he trully mad up his mind : his last text does not say he misses me...
Please tell what I should do if he calls?
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Firstly, something here has bothered me and that is your text back to him. You obviously care about him so why potentially look like you aren't so bothered?
Dating games for the right guy are the wrong thing I have found... He may regret losing you but have just had a bit of a fearful moment in committing, it doesn't mean he doesn't want a future with you. Take it from someone who was married to a guy who she loved very much but then divorced, you want to find a reason the relationship failed but sometimes it just doesn't work out. It was painful to get past (even if he was with you he would still find things tough to get past it but you made it easier) so you try to figure out still if everything with the new person is right, could you be setting yourself up for a fall etc... I think he has a few battle scars and needed to know how much he would miss you and loves you. He wants to come back, please don;t let him doubt you now as it will only make things harder xxx0
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