I can totally be friends with him. But the thing is that I just don't want to, not because it's hard for me, but because I would feel like shitting on my dignity and settling for less then I deserve. I see it this way: if he dumped me, then he has to deal with the fact that I'm out of his life for good. I don't want to give him the satisfaction of getting what he wants. Sure, I'm gonna miss him but I'm suck it up and move on. I'm asking this because he got mad that I rejected the "friends" offer, stating that it means that I don't really care about him, that if I cared about him I would want him in my life, like wants me in his. What are your thoughts?
Most Helpful Guy
you've a lot of things you must accomplish in your life, and one of those things like moving on , your dreams , your job , anything else . you're not obliged to be unhappy just to make other happy
sometimes love can't be turned into a friendship , otherwise you won't feel comfortable because there's a part of your past stuck in your life and that's 'll hold your back
just make sure the path you decide to walk aligns with your own intuition and desires and everything 'll be okay
I liked your decision to move on which mean that you started to discover yourself more+self-esteem
Most Helpful Girl
TBH no, If this guy was treating you like crap and making you feel bad about yourself, then you have no reason to feel bad for cutting him out of your life. It is what it is. Who wants to be around people who treat them terribly?
It makes no sense!
Deciding to not remain friends with an ex who mistreated you is only taking care of yourself. Sounds to me like he is just trying to keep you around in case he decides he made a mistake and wants you back. Don't let him treat you like a second choice.0