I can totally be friends with him. But the thing is that I just don't want to, not because it's hard for me, but because I would feel like shitting on my dignity and settling for less then I deserve. I see it this way: if he dumped me, then he has to deal with the fact that I'm out of his life for good. I don't want to give him the satisfaction of getting what he wants. Sure, I'm gonna miss him but I'm suck it up and move on. I'm asking this because he got mad that I rejected the "friends" offer, stating that it means that I don't really care about him, that if I cared about him I would want him in my life, like wants me in his. What are your thoughts?
Most Helpful Guy
you've a lot of things you must accomplish in your life, and one of those things like moving on , your dreams , your job , anything else . you're not obliged to be unhappy just to make other happy
sometimes love can't be turned into a friendship , otherwise you won't feel comfortable because there's a part of your past stuck in your life and that's 'll hold your back
just make sure the path you decide to walk aligns with your own intuition and desires and everything 'll be okay
I liked your decision to move on which mean that you started to discover yourself more+self-esteem
Most Helpful Girl
Hope you don't mind me being blunt here. I cut all exes out of my life for various reasons
- they were wrong for me
- the trust is gone
- I find it easier to move on and live my life
- I feel like they will try to be intimate again and use me for that with the excuses they still care/love me but just can't commit and don't want to ruin our "friendship"
Iv seen it happen to friends, Iv always been a deal with it and move on type of person. I'd say hello if they saw me otherwise il just ignore them. It isn't easy Iv had every ex still try text or chat with me regularly. It's annoying. I want them to know I will never give them the satisfaction or my time again. There are some I suppose who can remain friends which is great1