I am crying a lot and in such emotional pain. Sometimes when I cry, my chest and my heart literally ache. But what surprises me most is the spiritual aspect to this pain. Sometimes it feels like this pain is coming from a place deep inside me. Like my soul or spirit is grieving for the loss of this other human being in a deep and profound way. How does a connection like that happen? I mean, I was always keenly aware of the emotional and phsyical aspects of our relationship but I did not really realize there was a spiritual connection or undercurrent as well. Where does that come from? Why does that happen? I did not know how deep my feelings ran until my soul began to grieve. :(
Most Helpful Guy
I do relate with your pain that comes with breaking up with the people you love earnestly. I've been in those footpaths twice. It's never a healthy experience.
Your rhetoric questioning suggests you are still in the early phase of your loss. Psychologists refer to this phase as denial or anger. It's acceptable to challenge your loss or reject reality.
Once you've spent considerable time with a significant other, sharing and intimating on various things, they become an extension of the self—a part of you. While the physical side of this self is absence, the spiritual side still lives in thoughts, mind, space and objects.
I propose the following:
Step 1: Feel the hurtful feelings. It doesn't matter if it takes a day, week or month. Do not force away your thoughts from them.
Step 2: Accept the person is no longer with you, and would never come. Accept the heartbreak emotions.
Step 3: Focus on the good memories this person brought to your life. It's important not to dwell on the negatives otherwise that could cause you to relapse to the anger phase.
Step 4: Focus on things you would have loved more to experience from this person.
Step 5: Remove items that may cause you relapse to denial.
Step 6: Set important activities to do daily. Focus on completing them. Activities focus your mind on positive emotions.
Step 7: Remember something good is coming to you.
Step 8: Let time be your best friend. 6 to 12 months from now you would look back to this period, and smily ask—what for.3
Most Helpful Girl
It is easy to say snap out of it, but I know that isn't easy. You must let go, or the pain will destroy you. Time makes it easier. In the mean time surround yourself with friends and family. Take care of yourself and eat right. Take up a volunteer position to keep you active and your mind busy. It is normal to grieve for a few weeks, but then you need to let go of the pain and take care of you!!0