My boyfriend and I have finally broken up. I constantly tried to break up with him because I was unhappy in our relationship and it was obvious that things will never change. He would always complain about who I am and what type of woman he wanted me to be. I feel like he only put up a fight to be with me for his own personal convenience, like sex and company. We also have a daughter on the way in January. We used to text all the time and starting a couple days ago, he stopped texting me as often. The last time he text me was at 9am (this morning); it is now 3:44pm.
It hurts that it's finally official and it looks like he's letting go. I got tired of him getting drunk, calling me a b*tch, fighting me, forcibly having sex, telling me I was less than a woman, that I don't love our daughter, falsely accusing me of cheating/flirting, flirting with females through texts and in my face, treating others better than me and always belittling my character. He never wanted to take me out or treat me like his lady in public. He would put his earphones on and rather zone the world out than converse with me. I'm so depressed because I'm so used to his presence. I don't want my depression to go to my child and that's another reason why I wanted to pull away from him. I'm suffering mentally, emotionally and spiritually. What do I do?
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Listen up... It's easy to get caught up in a toxic relationship, and it also can be addicting... The best thing that ever happened to you trust, is for you two to have broken up... You need somebody that's going to love you and accept you for you... Not put you down.
I know you're pregnant with his child, and those hormones are acting on your emotion... But the best thing you can do is focus your mind, attention, and energy elsewhere.
I know its easier said than done to let people or things go... But this has to be a choice and a conscious decision... and if you're willing to make it a choice and a decision this will allow you to resolve you need to move forward. Open your mind to a free range of positive possibility... you are going to have a beautiful child come into the world... And that child will depend on you to be his or her everything.
Your life is not over, it's only beginning... And for the better. The next man you meet, and you will meet others... Consider it a red flag when he starts putting you down, that he is not for you. There is only one person that sets your self worth, and that you... If anyone tries to lower their value or make you feel less than what you feel you deserve... That's an indication that this person wants to tear you down instead of build you up and that kind of man is never the right person for you.1
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