Ok.. my ex broke up with me 3 weeks ago.. foolishly I've talked to her basically every day since the breakup.. but yesterday she was like "We should be friends that occasionally talk, talking all the time feels too much like how it was when we were together" I feel like a dumbass I've smoothered her.. even after the relationship... I feel like if I have ANY hope.. of getting her back or even being good friends with her in the future... This is a HUGE test for me.. she basically asked for space... So if I text her now.. I'd be disrespecting her wishes and looking desperate in the process.. never attractive traits a girl wants in a guy... I'm not sure if she's testing me or not.. but it's almost like a test.. I feel pretty confident we'll either be something in the future or by then I won't care.. so it's a win win... . it's weird because last Wednesday.. we talked so much.. and we didn't lose our connection at all from the breakup... but since then we haven't talked much and haven't on the phone at all... I feel like she either got scared.. started gaining feelings again/got confused.. or I don't know... but I feel like if I pass this test of not texting her at all this week.. that I'll either get her back, be decent friends with her or completely get over her... deep down I feel like she KNOWS I'll text her and end up blowing up her phone.. so I want to prove her wrong.. maybe I'll earn some respect back
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K, here's what I think You should do... ( That is if you wanna pass this "test")
1) Remember: She said She doesn't think you two need to talk everyday, She never said Never text or call again, be strong, wait a few days...
2) After a few days have passed, phone her, or text, whichever you prefer. Make sure when you do this you're prepared to tell her how it's been difficult not talking to her for awhile, as you've missed her, don't sound too desperate, keep it a "matter of fact" basis. Once you've expressed this fact, LISTEN for her response.
3) If she expresses She's missed you as well, then and only then, explain to her that you've wanted to call/txt several times but you've refrained from doing so because you wanted to respect her by giving her the space she requested0