No matter if you want the person back, never want them again, confident they'll come back, not confident... Is the "wait" the hardest thing? Me personally.. I'm pretty confident my ex and I will reconcile on some type of level in the future... but it's just the wait... the wait is what kills me.. it hasn't even been a month since we've broken up yet, so it's probably too early to think about getting back together... but I feel like we have too strong of a connection to NOT get back together or be friends... but the uncertainty is killing me.. because I want to text her so bad.. but I know any texts that can be considered needy, clingy, etc can basically ruin any type of chances of ANYTHING
Most Helpful Girl
I'm in the exact same situation. My boyfriend and I broke up and we agreed to stay in touch occasionally but so far.. nothing. I love him so much and it's killing me not having him in my life. Everything reminds me of him.. and it sucks horribly. I want to text him too but I don't want him to think I'm going to beg for him back or that i'm needy.
If it's been close to a month I say shoot her a text after the one month mark. By then you may be feeling a little better and she may be wondering why you haven't reached out to her too.
I'm waiting a few weeks to text my ex because hopefully by then I'm over him or close enough to it where it won't hurt me to talk to him.1
Most Helpful Guy
I wouldn't say that.
My first breakup, the hardest part was the loss of her in my life as my partner. I seriously did not care if I lived or died. (Wasn't suicidal, just indifferent)
Next breakup the hardest part was knowing I hurt her, when I didn't want to and I didn't even want to dump her. I just felt it was the right the to do.
Next breakup the hardest part was honestly a hit to my pride. As shitty as the sounds. The way the whole thing went down I just felt disrespected.
Never even thought about the uncertainty. I've always been the type to know I'll be ok and that whatever happens I'll figure it out0