Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 2 months. We've been talking for about 5 months and I've known him for over a year. He wants to keep us a secret because his best friend/housemate is my ex. He's told me he wants us to be together but in secret until he tells his friend. It's been 2 months and he still hasn't told his friend.
Thursday night I ended up speaking to mutual friend of all of us and I told him about me and my boyfriend. My drink was spiked that night so I have no memory of what I said at all, but I know my boyfriend found out because he's been ignoring me ever since.
I feel like him ignoring me has been the final straw. I haven't seen him in a month because he's afraid my ex will find out about us. He says he didn't want to break up before because he was going to tell him but still hasn't. I'm just so tired and heartbroken from all this.
I really do like him because he is a very nice person and I really don't want to give up on him because know I could be really happy with him but I just can't put up with all this secrecy and him getting mad at me when someone finds out about us. Should I talk to him about what I'm feeling first? Or just break up with him altogether?
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Honestly I think you should break up with him, I can already tell he isn't that serious and this relationship will go nowhere. If you love someone you want the world to know about this person, you don't care what other people think and you wouldn't hide that you are in a relationship unless it's from your parent's because you're not allowed to yet. But if you love them you would also find it hard to not be with them a lot of the time and if you're angry at someone you love you usually ignore them for a little while and then you talk to them again the next day or something and make up. Thats how it goes.
If you really want it to work then talk to him first. But from what I see all this secrecy and stuff will just makes this relationship troublesome and he's been fine with it for the past 2 months +? He should really grow some balls and just tell lol.. he cares about his friends/roomates feelings more than yours. Best of Luck.2