Basically my ex and I broke up last weekend. We were together for 3 years. Friends for a year before we started dating. So 3 years ago when we first started dating, we both went out to a party and I got very drunk. I ran into an acquaintance at this party when my ex went to the bathroom. I gave this guy a friendly hug and the next thing I know he had his hands on my and he was kissing my neck.
My ex walked up right then and saw it all. He didn't question me after I told him I was very drunk and that obviously that guy had taken advantage of me. I stopped talking to that guy after that night, I was so mad at that guy...
Fast forward to last weekend and we are talking. He asked me about that night and I recounted what had happened. He then said the details didn't match up and he asked me what else I had been hiding. I wasn't hiding anything, but he automatically jumped to conclusions and said he had seen me having sex apparently. I was completely shocked. He accused me of cheating and stormed off. I begged and pleaded, telling him nothing like that had happened and he wouldn't listen. He told me he would never be speaking to me again and a whole lot of other really nasty stuff. He has been cheated on badly in the past and throughout our relationship he admitted to looking through my phone and Facebook. Of course he didn't find anything, I had nothing to hide...
So last Friday he messaged me some horrible stuff saying it was a "courtesy text" about how I would burn in hell and that he hoped I would remember when I went sleeping around when I got drunk.
Why would he be texting me after that night and still trying to engage? I didn't respond, but I am considering doing so in a week or so when he calms down more.
I am at a loss of words and really could use some advice from some guys on this. From a guy's opinion, how should I handle this?
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If I was you, I would try to get him at a good time and either try and see each other in person or try to FaceTime/ Skype him. From personal experience, texting and sometimes even calling an ex girlfriend of mine can somehow twist your words and your case, your boyfriend may take things the wrong way. The reason why I say to FaceTime or Skype is because he can see your facial expressions and how deeply sorry you truly are.. Well not sorry, but he can tell that you're telling the truth. You can maybe say that you would never want to compromise the relationship that you two shared. It was too precious for you to want to cheat. I'm sure you love him so maybe tell him in the most sincere way at the end.
I'm sure he has feelings for you. If he was done with you, he wouldn't have talked to you after that night. Let me know if you have any other questions or comments. I hope I helped 😕
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