So I recently broke up with my boyfriend who I've been going out with for a couple years. It was an average relationship, and he was okay, but I honestly just wasn't physically attracted to him anymore. He has major babyface, and although he is a couple years older than me he honestly looks like a 16 year old. It's kind of embarrassing when everyone always thinks your boyfriend is your little brother lol. It was fine when we first got together, but as I got older I started wanting someone who looks mature. Plus I've gotten more mature myself. I really hope I don't sound like a bitch. I see no point in being in a relationship with someone I'm just not attracted to anymore. He was bummed but he'll be okay. Of course I never told him the reason I broke it off was because I wanted a man, not a little boy in diapers. Please help me take the guilt off my shoulders.
Most Helpful Guy
Some guys like girls with red hair. They never thought about it and decided that they wanted to be attracted to redheads; it is just what turns them on. Some women are only attracted to tall men; it wasn't a choice that they made. Guys who are attracted to children don't take a pause in their lives and make a conscious decision to be a pedophile (and I am not defending pedophiles at all; I'm just saying that they did not choose to have those impulses and attractions.) I am attracted to women with small breasts; I don't remember ever deciding that this is the way I wanted to be.
If you are not attracted to your boyfriend, after being with him a few years, I find that a bit strange. . . but I accept your statement as being the truth. Breaking up with him after a few years, for something that is not his fault, and which does not represent a change in him, is awful. He must feel like a class A victim of life's unfairness, and I have compassion for him.
The only thing worse than you breaking up with him would be you staying with him. He has done nothing wrong and he deserves to have a woman who loves him. If you are not even attracted to him, you cannot love him in the way that he deserves to be loved, so breaking up is the most humane thing to do.
The circumstances did not present you with any good options. You should feel badly about what happened because it is sad, but you should not feel responsible or guilt about it.0
Most Helpful Girl
... I see no point in being in a relationship with someone I'm just not attracted to anymore.
Allow Me, this wise ol owl, to take some of the baby burden off your shoulders here, dear. I find you are this Honest Jane in Openly Admitting all of this, and not only That, very Mature in breaking it off, rather than continue to Pretend By... Pulling it off.
Good luck. xx0