My boyfriend & I , have been together for a over 5 years & a half now , and lived together 2 & 1/2 of that time. 4 months after we had first moved in , he was out of work for 2 weeks & he messaged an ex ' on Facebook , even though it only consisted of 4 messages ; which were just asking how they had been doing , I never got over it. It made me insecure about myself , that he would reach out to an ex , specially because the girl had a 2 month newborn. I recently argued with him because the girl had started following him on another social site , and I reached out to her , and finally got closure and she apologized for causing me so much doubt , she unfollowed him and wished us the best. Because I had been holding on to his mistake two years ago , I've spent the last years accusing him of taking to people behind my back , without having true reasoning & he would always show me there was nothing to hide. We bought a house this year & we were doing great , until my insecurity came back , he started hanging out with his brothers going to bars without me ' and then I would Fight with him , telling him that I was the person whose done the most for him & he was choosing people over me. I was very aggressive , disrespectful & verbally abusive. Unfortunately, I thought that would make him feel bad about leaving me , but in reality I now see how it made him more upset & more prone to want to be away from me: I've tried to apologize to him & acknowledge my behavioral flaws that have damaged our relationship , but he really doesn't tell me anything , he just listens. We're still under the same house, but not communicating much at all, he doesn't even text me during the day && he told me not to make him food for work today. I just feel like I completely lost a decent guy whose done a lot for our future , because I was an insecure wreck who didn't realize it until it was too late. Should I just leave him alone &move..
Most Helpful Guy
Seems like you realize what you are doing now the key is to tell him then stick to your guns of being able to trust him again. Try to go back to basics. Sit and watch a movie cuddled on the couch. Go out to your favorite restaurant that has a lot of memories or city or attraction. Get the spark back you lost due to jealousy. Because the love seems to still be there. Just a rough patch your going through.0
Most Helpful Girl
You probably now want to start showing things have changed. Being depressed about it won't make anything better... Get out of the house, go to the spa, spoil yourself with a few nice outfits, go to the salon and get a new hair do and do your nails... Look after yourself and make yourself feel good and happy. As a woman naturally your energy will bring out positive vibes around you... Go out... Keep him wondering and be mysterious! Show him your fun side and remind him why he fell in love with you in the first place! Make cute quirky surprises to remind him of great memories in the past... Your actions will determine where this relationship is heading! Good luck! X0